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Journey - 26 May 2007 00:27 GMT
I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.

I was transferred to one area first, I believe it was Customer
Service.  They had to transfer me to another area which is for
warranty sales.

I received terrible service from the warranty sales area.

In addition to overall bluntness and a poor attitude, he gave me
incorrect information:

-  The first date he gave me for the extension date was 2005.  I had
to ask him where 2005 came from, because I bought the laptop in 2007,
and a warranty extension would have a date into the future.

-  Then he said it would cost over $560 to extend my warranty.  I said
that it didn't seem right and asked the end date.  He said it was
2012.

-  Then he asked what level of service I wanted -- next day at site,
or some other ones.  I asked him if there is a cheaper one in which I
could mail it in.  He said no.  I asked if they ever had that.  He
said yes.  I asked when that stopped being offered.  He said last
week.

I asked for his supervisor, who he said is unavailable.

There is more to it.  I chalked it up to a very small "Dell Hell"
experience (this is nothing compared to what I have had in the past).
I was going to follow up next week and file a complaint against this
person, who didn't want to identify himself, but I did get a name and
direct extension.

OK HERE IS THE AMAZING PART

The Dell customer service person who transferred me to warranty sales
had stayed on the line and heard the entire conversation!

He called me back while I was on the phone and left a message
apologizing for the poor service and that he and his manager will
follow up on it.  In his message he even said something about him
probably being terminated.

A bad experience was turned into a good experience.

I still don't know what the warranty extension will cost -- I'll do
that on Monday.
Colin Wilson - 26 May 2007 01:26 GMT
> The Dell customer service person who transferred me to warranty sales
> had stayed on the line and heard the entire conversation!

LOL

Perhaps they really are starting to put the customer first again -
sure, you'll always end up getting the odd crap employee, but if they
do this for a while to weed out the really bad ones :-p

Perhaps if you give it a couple of days they'll call back with a
follow-up, and hopefully someone who can actually deal with your
request :-)
Journey - 26 May 2007 04:10 GMT
>> The Dell customer service person who transferred me to warranty sales
>> had stayed on the line and heard the entire conversation!
[quoted text clipped - 8 lines]
>follow-up, and hopefully someone who can actually deal with your
>request :-)

I sent an e-mail in to the person who stayed on the line so I am sure
that there will be a followup.

In the past I was under the impression that warranty sales was outside
of Dell but based on this it doesn't seem like it.

I think almost everyone has had experiences in which the "support"
person on the other end of the line was totally rude and / or not
competant.  It felt good to have Dell actually call me back and leave
a message saying that they heard it and could validate that it
actually was as bad as I thought it was.
Allan9 - 26 May 2007 04:26 GMT
When did they ever start?
Al

>> The Dell customer service person who transferred me to warranty sales
>> had stayed on the line and heard the entire conversation!
[quoted text clipped - 8 lines]
> follow-up, and hopefully someone who can actually deal with your
> request :-)
Barry Watzman - 26 May 2007 03:06 GMT
There are exceptions, but the general rule is that extended warranties
must be bought either with the unit or shortly thereafter (Toshiba
allows 30 days).  In most cases, once you get "down the road", you can't
buy an extended warranty (this is to prevent fraud ... people trying to
buy an extended warranty AFTER a failure has occurred).

In general, I don't recommend extended warranties for laptops unless
they include "accidental damage coverage".

> I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 44 lines]
> I still don't know what the warranty extension will cost -- I'll do
> that on Monday.
RnR - 26 May 2007 03:45 GMT
>There are exceptions, but the general rule is that extended warranties
>must be bought either with the unit or shortly thereafter (Toshiba
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
>In general, I don't recommend extended warranties for laptops unless
>they include "accidental damage coverage".

Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
savings toward the next one.  I'm willing to take the risk.
Journey - 26 May 2007 04:06 GMT
>Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
>won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
>savings toward the next one.  I'm willing to take the risk.

I am just wondering -- do you know what a laptop repair costs?  I
don't know.  Say that the display is loose and flops back and forth,
but you don't have the technical savvy to fix it and want to send it
in.  I have no idea what it would cost.

Once I had to have a motherboard replaced.  I guess at that point, if
it's outside of warranty, the laptop is a total loss.
Ben Myers - 26 May 2007 04:52 GMT
Pricing and quality for laptop repairs are all over the map.  

If the warranty has expired, out-of-warranty service provided by the vendor (or
its surrogate service provider) is normally ridiculously high in price, to
encourage you to buy a replacement computer.

Post warranty service from a Dell-certified dealer can also be high priced.

Post warranty service from an independent service provider is generally least
expensive, but the quality can range from superb to the worst.  

But then, even a Dell affiliate can bungle a job using poorly trained personnel.

Cost of parts is also a factor.   New parts cost more and are generally harder
to find for older models.   Used but servicable parts may be just right.   The
part that needs to be replaced is important.   LCD screens are pretty costly. So
are motherboards.   Plastic to replace cracked parts is generally not expensive.
Replacement hinges for an LCD screen are inexpensive, but the job to replace
them is tedious, so expensive.   Hard drives are commodity items, so they are
relatively cheap.   Data recovery from an almost failed hard drive is expensive,
and generally not covered by any manufacturer's warranty. CD/DVD drives often
have custom bezels which drive up the price.  miniPCI wifi cards are
inexpensive.   Resoldering a broken power connector back onto a motherboard is
advertised in a lot of places for around $100.   This is something I will not
do, as I have neither tools nor expertise to solder a motherboard properly.

That's sort of what I have learned from being a non-certified service person
willing to tackle any brand of notebook as long as some sort of sketchy info is
available for disassembly... Ben Myers

>>Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
>>won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
>Once I had to have a motherboard replaced.  I guess at that point, if
>it's outside of warranty, the laptop is a total loss.
Journey - 26 May 2007 08:43 GMT
>Pricing and quality for laptop repairs are all over the map.  
>
[quoted text clipped - 25 lines]
>willing to tackle any brand of notebook as long as some sort of sketchy info is
>available for disassembly... Ben Myers

Thank you Ben -- another keeper for my archives (stored in Info Select
-- www.miclog.com and therefore instantly retrievable).

I may just keep my 2 year warranty and not extend a 3rd because it's
too much trouble.

(by the way, the video card with the loud fan will get to you
eventually, I just haven't gotten around to sending it yet).
RnR - 26 May 2007 05:55 GMT
>>Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
>>won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
>Once I had to have a motherboard replaced.  I guess at that point, if
>it's outside of warranty, the laptop is a total loss.

No Journey I don't nor care because I won't repair it (pay for it).
I've seen the cost of extended warrantees in the past and didn't think
it was worth it to me.   I consider the laptop disposable if it comes
to that.
Journey - 26 May 2007 08:34 GMT
>>>Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
>>>won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>it was worth it to me.   I consider the laptop disposable if it comes
>to that.  

Yes -- extended warranties are expensive indeed.  With Dell, at least
they give a refund on the warranty.  I did that with the XPS 410
desktop (not sure if I mentioned that already).  I actually got more
of a refund ($153) than what I paid for it at the outlet store ($100),
but I wasn't about to get all honest about it and create a Dell Hell
experience waiting on the phone for hours while they try to determine
how to refund me $53 less.
RnR - 26 May 2007 13:59 GMT
>>>>Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
>>>>won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
[quoted text clipped - 20 lines]
>experience waiting on the phone for hours while they try to determine
>how to refund me $53 less.

I understand.  It would probably cost you $53.00 in aggrevation or
stress anyway trying <g>.
Barry Watzman - 27 May 2007 17:32 GMT
Replacing a screen or a motherboard out of warranty will cost as much as
a new computer in most cases.  It's usually not an economically feasible
repair.

RnR's point is valid; it depends on your risk profile and tolerance.
But some situations, especially those with a LOT of travel and high-risk
environments (college students who use a laptop as their only computer
definitely qualify) have a higher than normal risk profile.

>> Personally I don't recommend them in "most" cases.  For myself, I
>> won't buy them and consider the money spent on them to be put in
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
> Once I had to have a motherboard replaced.  I guess at that point, if
> it's outside of warranty, the laptop is a total loss.
Journey - 26 May 2007 04:03 GMT
>In general, I don't recommend extended warranties for laptops unless
>they include "accidental damage coverage".

Right -- I get the complete care coverage whenever I get an extended
warranty for a laptop.

I will find out if they allow the purchase of an extended warranty
after the fact.  I have over 600 days left on this warranty so fraud
isn't likely and maybe they take that into account in some way.
Kevin - 26 May 2007 05:26 GMT
>I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 44 lines]
> I still don't know what the warranty extension will cost -- I'll do
> that on Monday.

Dell gets slammed, and sometimes very rightly so, for poor customer service.
But, if you really want a truly awful experience, just order a camera from
one of those companies in New York, I think you all know which one I mean,
and you will have memories to last a life time.  These guys all, to the man,
sound like they are auditioning for a part on The Sopranos.  To say they
were not professional is a gross understatement.  Here is a brief excerpt
from one conversation I had with these people:

Them:  Yeah!  Dis is Steven. (I can hear children screaming in the
background, a television blasting away to provide ambience)
Me:  Ummm . . . is this xxxxxxxxxx Camera?
Them:  Shu-ah!  Wat do youse want?  (More kids screaming their heads off,
apparently trying to get the attention of Steven)
Me:  This is xxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxx and my order number ---(I'm abruptly cut off
by Steven)
Them:  HO, HO, HO dere, uh Mr. xxxxxxxxx, dose numbers don't mean nuttin to
me.  What do youse want?  (The kids are now drowned out by the television,
it's volume maxed out and distorting)
Me:  You didn't include the extra memory card, batteries, case, strap and
instructions that were shown as included on your website.  I'm just calling
to get those.
Them:  (Riotous laughter ensues)  Hey, buddy!  We don't include dat stuff
wid dose cameras!  Youse gots to buy dose seperate, ya know?
Me:  Steven, it is clearly indicated that those all do come with the camera.
I'm looking at your website right now, and it says all these are shipped
with the camera, in the retail packaging.  (There is a long silence, or at
least Steven isn't talking, the television, apparently tuned to a New York
news station is in the process of blowing all the speakers out)
Them:  Hey, dere ain't nuttin I can do about dat.  Call back on Wednesday,
da owner otta be here by den.  I gotta go.

Steven then hung up.  So, you see, Customer Service is different all over.

And dats da name a dat tune.
Journey - 26 May 2007 08:28 GMT
>Dell gets slammed, and sometimes very rightly so, for poor customer service.
>But, if you really want a truly awful experience, just order a camera from
>one of those companies in New York, I think you all know which one I mean,
>and you will have memories to last a life time.  

Case in point, camera supplier from New York.  If anyone wants a
reality check horror story, this is a must read:

http://www.epinions.com/pr-Online_Stores_Services-WAWA_Digital

They went by many different names, and even put up fake opinion rating
sites pointing to their "business".

This was *my* reality check, and fortunately I cancelled my credit
card in time after doing some post-purchase research.
RnR - 26 May 2007 14:07 GMT
>>Dell gets slammed, and sometimes very rightly so, for poor customer service.
>>But, if you really want a truly awful experience, just order a camera from
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
>This was *my* reality check, and fortunately I cancelled my credit
>card in time after doing some post-purchase research.

I didn't read the link but have heard of some NY horror stories too
concerning cameras but there are 1 or 2 legit / good ones there such
as B&H that comes to mind.   I bought from B&H years ago and they were
straight up and I would have no problem dealing with them again.  I
feel sorry for them tho; they keep sending me these huge catalogs
(real nice I might add) of their camera and camera related gear and
I'm not in the market for cameras.  I hate to see them waste their
postage on me.
henryp - 29 May 2007 17:49 GMT
> I didn't read the link but have heard of some NY horror stories too
> concerning cameras but there are 1 or 2 legit / good ones there such
> asB&Hthat comes to mind.   I bought fromB&Hyears ago and they were
> straight up and I would have no problem dealing with them again.

Thank you.

Henry Posner
B&H Photo-Video, Inc.
Tom Scales - 29 May 2007 19:21 GMT
> -----Original Message-----
> From: henryp [mailto:henryp@bhphotovideo.com]
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
> Henry Posner
> B&H Photo-Video, Inc.

Henry,

Interesting to see you pop up here.  I too endorse B&H (and love the
catalog).  Ordered from you for years and see you all over the internet.
You're a great presence for B&H

I'm just curious, though.  I can't imagine you spend a lot of time on
the Dell group.  Do you have software that scans newsgroups to ensure
that you see any references to B&H?  Would make sense if you did.

Tom
RnR - 29 May 2007 19:42 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: henryp [mailto:henryp@bhphotovideo.com]
[quoted text clipped - 24 lines]
>
>Tom

It's called TRADE SECRETS <g>.  

I don't recall right now but I know there is software to harvest email
addresses so I see no reason why they can't harvest particular words
also.
henryp - 30 May 2007 14:35 GMT
> > -----Original Message-----
> Henry,
> Interesting to see you pop up here.  I too endorseB&H(and love the
> catalog).  Ordered from you for years and see you all over the internet.
> You're a great presence forB&H

Thanks.

> I'm just curious, though.  I can't imagine you spend a lot of time on
> the Dell group.  Do you have software that scans newsgroups to ensure
> that you see any references toB&H?  Would make sense if you did.

I use Google's "Alerts" widget. Easy as pie.

Henry Posner
B&H Photo-Video, Inc.
RnR - 29 May 2007 19:38 GMT
>> I didn't read the link but have heard of some NY horror stories too
>> concerning cameras but there are 1 or 2 legit / good ones there such
[quoted text clipped - 5 lines]
>Henry Posner
>B&H Photo-Video, Inc.

You're more than welcome. Funny but I don't remember exactly what I
purchased now but I do remember I was very satisfied with your
service.  I hope I can purchase from you again.  I enjoy your catalogs
but I feel a bit guilty getting them.   Hopefully I've helped pay for
them a little by recommending B&H for cameras, etc.. <g>.
Bob Johnson - 26 May 2007 18:56 GMT
>Case in point, camera supplier from New York.  

Some "great" looking storefront operations
http://donwiss.com/pictures/BrooklynStores/

Best Regards,
Bob Johnson
Dan Sgambelluri - 26 May 2007 21:08 GMT
>> Case in point, camera supplier from New York.  
>
[quoted text clipped - 3 lines]
> Best Regards,
> Bob Johnson
My fav is http://donwiss.com/pictures/BrooklynStores/0119.jpg
Barry Watzman - 27 May 2007 17:35 GMT
Lots of those places (the NY/NJ mail order camera and electronics
places) are every bit as bad as you indicated, but not all of them.
This is a case where some research on the vendor before making the
purchase can save you a lot of grief.

>> I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
>> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 79 lines]
>
> And dats da name a dat tune.
BigJim - 26 May 2007 08:15 GMT
on my 600m it was 175 for an extra year
>I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 44 lines]
> I still don't know what the warranty extension will cost -- I'll do
> that on Monday.
Woody Dawson - 26 May 2007 14:36 GMT
>I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 44 lines]
> I still don't know what the warranty extension will cost -- I'll do
> that on Monday.

And your point is ????
RnR - 26 May 2007 16:22 GMT
>>I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
>> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 46 lines]
>
>And your point is ????

If you read Journey's post, it will answer your question.
Woody Dawson - 26 May 2007 17:43 GMT
>>>I called to extend my laptop warranty from 2 to 3 years because I like
>>> it a lot and plan on keeping it at least that long.
[quoted text clipped - 48 lines]
>
> If you read Journey's post, it will answer your question.

I did read it. Just not sure who gives a sh.t
Tom Scales - 26 May 2007 17:56 GMT
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Woody Dawson [mailto:woodrowDDx@msn.com]
>
> > If you read Journey's post, it will answer your question.
>
> I did read it. Just not sure who gives a sh.t

The regulars here loved reading it.  We like to keep a pulse on Dell.
That's how we help.

Oh, and we love ANYTHING that Journey posts :)

We're a big FAMILY.
Journey - 27 May 2007 00:13 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Woody Dawson [mailto:woodrowDDx@msn.com]
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
>
>We're a big FAMILY.

Yes, a very large family, and Tom's a big part of it too :-)
RnR - 27 May 2007 01:46 GMT
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: Woody Dawson [mailto:woodrowDDx@msn.com]
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
>
>Yes, a very large family, and Tom's a big part of it too :-)

Journey, I don't mind the family growing but I guess we're getting the
less desireable ones dropping by here now and hope they don't become a
part of the family until they learn to behave better.  You know what I
mean (email me if you want as well as the regulars here; others need
not bother since I'll just mark it spam).
Notan - 27 May 2007 22:39 GMT
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: Woody Dawson [mailto:woodrowDDx@msn.com]
[quoted text clipped - 14 lines]
> mean (email me if you want as well as the regulars here; others need
> not bother since I'll just mark it spam).

All families have less-than-desirables.

Take my Uncle Jim.

Please!

Signature

Notan

RnR - 27 May 2007 23:08 GMT
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: Woody Dawson [mailto:woodrowDDx@msn.com]
[quoted text clipped - 20 lines]
>
>Please!

Notan, no thank you.  I already have one teenager that, at times, is
less than desireable or should I say, tests my patience to the limit.
Tom Scales - 28 May 2007 12:02 GMT
> -----Original Message-----
> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]

> >All families have less-than-desirables.
> >
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> Notan, no thank you.  I already have one teenager that, at times, is
> less than desireable or should I say, tests my patience to the limit.

Just one?  Geez, I have three of those.  Wanna trade?
RnR - 28 May 2007 15:14 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
>
>Just one?  Geez, I have three of those.  Wanna trade?

Forgive me for going OT to the rest of the group:

No thank you Tom.  I'd like to keep whatever sanity I have left
intact.  Take last nite for example... my 2nd daughter loses her house
key and says it's not a big deal.  When asked when she lost it, she
can't remember.  I tried to help but as I questioned her, her response
is "no big deal" or "whatever" (seems to be a favorite word of hers).
It annoys me because I didn't bring them up to be irresponsible or
disrespectful.  And right now I'm having to put up with a boyfriend
(???) of this daughter who I'm not crazy about sleeping in my house
this weekend (long story and I'll spare the details).  Oh well enough
of my problems.  I know mine are small in comparison to others.

Seriously, I don't understand why the teenagers are in some ways so
immature, sometimes disrespectful and don't seem to appreciate what
parents do for them.   Perhaps we do too much and that actually does
more harm than good????   Honestly sometimes I'm at wits end.   My
wife gets upset with me when I say that I can't wait for them to move
out permanently tho in truth the first daughter is for the most part
okay.
Tom Scales - 28 May 2007 16:15 GMT
> -----Original Message-----
> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]

> >Just one?  Geez, I have three of those.  Wanna trade?
>
[quoted text clipped - 18 lines]
> out permanently tho in truth the first daughter is for the most part
> okay.

Believe me I get it.  They can be rude and incredibly disrespectful and
10 minutes later expect you to drive them to the mall.

But hey, I love them.  I just don't always like them.
RnR - 28 May 2007 17:05 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
[quoted text clipped - 24 lines]
>Believe me I get it.  They can be rude and incredibly disrespectful and
>10 minutes later expect you to drive them to the mall.

You're right !!  My wife sometimes blames the TV in part for some of
their behavior because they seem to mimic it.  Seems like when I'm too
strict, my wife gets upset with me and if I'm not strict enough, I
have to deal with more disrespect.... a NO win situation for me.
Tom Scales - 28 May 2007 17:48 GMT
> -----Original Message-----
> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
[quoted text clipped - 42 lines]
> strict, my wife gets upset with me and if I'm not strict enough, I
> have to deal with more disrespect.... a NO win situation for me.

Believe me, I get it.  It's a no-win.  I'm doing a better job of
learning to pick my battles, especially now that I don't have backup :)
S.Lewis - 28 May 2007 17:54 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
[quoted text clipped - 47 lines]
> Believe me, I get it.  It's a no-win.  I'm doing a better job of
> learning to pick my battles, especially now that I don't have backup :)

I feel fortunate to not have teenaged girls. I have the opportunity to go to
a local high school with some frequency to re-affirm how out of touch I am
with........today.

You're both better men than I'll ever be.
RnR - 28 May 2007 19:08 GMT
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
[quoted text clipped - 53 lines]
>
>You're both better men than I'll ever be.

Speaking for myself, I don't know about that but thank you anyway.  
I believe most parents have good intentions but it doesn't always turn
out the way intended :(  .
Journey - 29 May 2007 10:13 GMT
>I feel fortunate to not have teenaged girls. I have the opportunity to go to
>a local high school with some frequency to re-affirm how out of touch I am
>with........today.
>
>You're both better men than I'll ever be.

Some good books that may shed some insights into the emotional lives
of boys and girls:

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
http://tinyurl.com/3xdp4l

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
http://tinyurl.com/3dmeb3

One more good book, for men with depression and the women who love
them:

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male
Depression
http://tinyurl.com/2mm24e
Ben Myers - 28 May 2007 17:55 GMT
Kids may be a little more disrespectful today than in previous years because of
the effects of mass media.   But let's face it, teen years are a time for a
great deal of physical, mental and emotional development and high time for kids
to begin to assert the independence of adulthood.   They still need limits and
they really do want boundaries.   Don't give up, although it sometimes seems
like the easy way out... Ben Myers

>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
[quoted text clipped - 29 lines]
>strict, my wife gets upset with me and if I'm not strict enough, I
>have to deal with more disrespect.... a NO win situation for me.
Tom Scales - 28 May 2007 18:28 GMT
Point taken.  My mantra (silent) is that they don't have to like me.
It's my job to help them grow up into the kind of adult that will
someday recognize the value of their boundaries during their teen years.

I have, however, told them that I'm keeping a list of everything they
want to do at fourteen and think should be just fine. I've promised to
share that list with their children when they turn fourteen and let them
explain why THEIR children shouldn't be allowed to do those things.

Fill in the blank:  Piercings, tattoos, spending the night at boys
houses, stay out all night.

Tom

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Ben Myers [mailto:ben_myers_spam_me_not@charter.net]
[quoted text clipped - 56 lines]
> >strict, my wife gets upset with me and if I'm not strict enough, I
> >have to deal with more disrespect.... a NO win situation for me.
Ben Myers - 28 May 2007 18:58 GMT
I never had the luck to raise girls.   My children are both young men now. They
avoided tatoos and piercings, and avoided unwanted fatherhood so far but not the
activities that cause it.  I've seen enough of teen girls in recent years to
realize that they can pose enormous challenges to parents, in part because they
mature earlier physically.  Hang tough with them.  They will appreciate it in
the long run if they end up college-educated without babies dragging them down
at an early age and without any addictions or debilitating STDs.  After all
that, they might even have the introspection to thank you.

As a good friend of mine one said about her teen son and daughter, but a number
of years later, they can be horrendous as teens, but go into remission when they
become adults... Ben Myers

>Point taken.  My mantra (silent) is that they don't have to like me.
>It's my job to help them grow up into the kind of adult that will
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>Tom
Notan - 28 May 2007 18:29 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
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>
> But hey, I love them.  I just don't always like them.

I remember the same exact words, coming from my parents' mouths.

"The more things change, the more they stay the same."

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Michael Arm - 31 May 2007 02:16 GMT
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
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>
>"The more things change, the more they stay the same."

The words from my mother's mouth was "I hope you have childen just
like you."

Mike
Notan - 31 May 2007 03:34 GMT
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
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> The words from my mother's mouth was "I hope you have childen just
> like you."

I heard that one, too.

Up until the point when I knew better, I thought it was a *good* wish! <g>

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Ron Hardin - 31 May 2007 10:30 GMT
Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.

The writer James Thurber said he never did anything worthwhile in
life until he started raising Scotties.

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Journey - 31 May 2007 11:37 GMT
>Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>one and a half.

I don't get it.

>The writer James Thurber said he never did anything worthwhile in
>life until he started raising Scotties.

Really?  Doesn't sound like a very interesting life!
Journey - 31 May 2007 11:51 GMT
>>Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>>one and a half.
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>Really?  Doesn't sound like a very interesting life!

Sorry, I just re-read my post and it sounds rude.  I just didn't
understand the age 1 and 1/2 thing because I didn't think that
happened until the teens.

I also am a cat person.  Dogs seem like too much work.  I teach my
cats to fetch so I get the best of both worlds :-)
S.Lewis - 31 May 2007 11:43 GMT
> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
>
> The writer James Thurber said he never did anything worthwhile in
> life until he started raising Scotties.

And that's only because Thurber never owned a Boston:
http://tinyurl.com/ysu3vv
Notan - 31 May 2007 22:01 GMT
>> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
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> And that's only because Thurber never owned a Boston:
> http://tinyurl.com/ysu3vv

How 'bout an Entlebucher:

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=6g0ndzm

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Notan - 31 May 2007 22:03 GMT
>>> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>>> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
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> http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=6g0ndzm

Better picture:

http://i11.tinypic.com/6g0ndzm.jpg

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S.Lewis - 31 May 2007 23:39 GMT
>>>> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>>>> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
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> http://i11.tinypic.com/6g0ndzm.jpg

Honestly had never heard of them before. Looks and sounds (from the
descriptions I read) like a fine animal and companion. Unfortunately, we can
only keep a smaller dog and be fair to it where we're located, and we're
without a pup for the forseeable future after losing our 12-year friend last
year.

Looks like a very strong and noble beast indeed.

Stew
Ben Myers - 01 Jun 2007 03:20 GMT
This thread has gone to the dogs!   ... Ben

>>>>> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>>>>> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
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>Stew
Journey - 01 Jun 2007 07:57 GMT
>>>> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>>>> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
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>http://i11.tinypic.com/6g0ndzm.jpg

Wow, that's a beautiful dog!
Notan - 01 Jun 2007 18:14 GMT
>>>>> Get a dog.  Children start planning their escape starting about age
>>>>> one and a half.  Dogs like you more the longer you're together.
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> Wow, that's a beautiful dog!

Thanks!

To you and Stew -

We spotted a picture of the breed in a Simon & Schuster dog book,
looked into them, and thought it sounded like the perfect breed
for us.

Here's another:

http://i9.tinypic.com/4ytwh1s.jpg

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henryp - 01 Jun 2007 15:05 GMT
> On the internet, nobody knows you're a jerk.

If only that was true. :-)

- henry
Ben Myers - 01 Jun 2007 18:01 GMT
Actually, the accurate way to say it is that "On the internet, nobody knows who
the jerk is."   ... Ben Myers

>> On the internet, nobody knows you're a jerk.
>
>If only that was true. :-)
>
> - henry
Journey - 31 May 2007 05:48 GMT
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: RnR [mailto:rnrtexas@gmail.com]
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>
>But hey, I love them.  I just don't always like them.

I posted links in another thread, but wanted to mention it here too
that there are two good books about the emotional lives and
development of girls and boys.

For girls, Reviving Ophelia

For boys, Raising Cain

The books and reviews can of course be found on Amazon.
 
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